New year new opportunities and fresh resolutions ! The perfect time to bring some changes in our lives and in the world around us.
You might already know this famous quote from Gandhi : “Be the change you want to see in the world”. Those few words are powerful and embody the power we have on a day to day basis to change the things around us and contribute to a better world.
Now the topic of this blog post is not to discuss Gandhi’s sentence but to bring it a bit closer to us and to the changes we want to see happen in our lives.
Hence : Be the change you want to see… in your life.
We often complain about our lives being too much this or not enough that. We also often expect the others (or in other words the outside world) to bring solutions. But do we really pause and ask ourselves :
- What do I want ?
- What can I do to activate what I want ?
- Among all the things that I can’t do, what is it that I can do ?*
We delegate to others and to uncertainty the possibility for the things we want to happen instead of us making them happen. And I use the word uncertainty because – you may have noticed – we can’t control other people. So by delegating our power to others, we delegate it to uncertainty. Making very uncertain the possibility for our dreams to come true.
Don’t misunderstand me, I am not saying that we can’t ask for help, I am saying that we can’t rely on others to take the responsibility for what we want to happen without taking that responsibility ourselves first.
So next time you complain about something, ask yourself what can I do to change it ?
For example :
- At work : “I don’t have a clear career plan” – Are you waiting for the HR department or your manager to provide one or did you start to create it on your own ? Can you tell where do you want to be in 1 / 2 / 5 years time and what are the steps to be there ? What can you activate now without waiting for your HR or manager to come back to you ?
- At work (again): “This process is broken” – Are you saying this and doing nothing about it ? Or did you reach out to the process owner and discuss possible improvements and give a hand to help ?
- With your friend : ” I don’t see my friends enough” – Are you waiting for your friends to get in touch or do you actually make time to reach out ? Do you plan meetups long in advance to maximise the possibility for those to happen ? Do you make time for them to happen ?
- With your children : “I don’t spend enough time with my kids” – Are you putting aside pockets of time for this? Like really ? Far from any distractions ?
- With your children (still) : “They don’t eat enough veg” – Did you browse all the kids culinary blogs to find solutions ? (believe me I became the queen of hidden veg tomato sauce or how to hide green beans in a pesto 🙂 yes that’s possible)
- And I could continue this list…
Now go. Make your own list of things you’d like to change in your life. Set priorities or goals or whatever will help you to track your progress. And review those periodically.
And keep in mind that if You Can’t Measure It, You Can’t Improve It. It doesn’t mean creating complicated reports on your daily habits, a simple piece of paper to review on a daily / weekly basis will do (I actually just downloaded a free app for this called coach.me – I like checking in every evening and see that I have worked towards my goals on a day to day basis).
Oh and… Happy New Year ! I Hope your wishes (at least some) will come true in 2019.
PS : creating this blog was one of my goals in 2018. I did it in September but still. How can you help me ? Please by sharing my posts or my blog on social media or with your friends and by following it (suing the follow button) – I figured out that if I didn’t ask it would not happen 😉
* 😉 Tracey
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